Ignore Your Itty Bitty Sh*tty Committee

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We each have our own inner critic or gremlin. I’ve even heard it called the “Itty Bitty Sh*tty Committee.” This is that voice (or the voices) you hear in your head telling you that you’re not good enough, smart enough, trim enough, rich enough, strong enough….to have the life you deserve to live. Some of its favorite words are “can’t,” “shouldn’t” or “should have” and “never.”

Most of us can probably name or point out our gremlin. It’s been with us so long that we’re very familiar with how it behaves. For example, I’ve named mine “Killjoy.” My gremlin loves to taunt me with an overly burdensome sense of responsibility…for everyone and everything. There’s no time for fun and play when there’s so much that needs to be done! My gremlin has a particularly good time needling me because it knows it is completely contradictory to a core value I hold and that’s the importance of being playful.

So, I wage war with my gremlin and “smite” it on a regular basis, right? Hardly! Our gremlins are very strong and they thrive on our energy. The more attention we give them, the stronger they fight back. Instead of fighting, the key is first acknowledgement then dismissal. You really hurt your gremlin when it knows it has been seen yet you’re strong enough to do your own thing. In his book, Taming Your Gremlin, Rick Carson tells us that

To be at choice from situation to situation and from moment to moment is vitally important in taming your gremlin.

One of the most common gremlins for anyone that used to be overweight is self doubt or fear; lacking confidence and always worrying about gaining weight back. The voice tells you, “You might have success now but you can’t sustain this.” or “You’ll never be able to relax in your new skin. You’ll always have to worry about every little thing you put in your mouth because you know you’ll mess up eventually.” When these really negative thoughts pop up, first recognize them for what they are; untruths being sustained by runaway perceptions. Next, remember, you always have choices. In whatever situation you find yourself, will you choose to listen to your inner critic or will you use information you know to be true? How did you lose that last pound, or ten or hundred pounds, in the first place? You know what your body needs to be healthy now. No gremlin can suddenly take the power of your knowing away from you. Ignore it and choose what’s right for you.

Be aware that your gremlin is pretty smart. As you get better at ignoring its voice, it will change and turn into something new trying to get your attention again. Stay wary and never let the bugger get the better of you.

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