Adventure

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Adventure.” Take a risk and add spice to your life.

How have you been limiting yourself? Take a step towards action even if it feels risky.

Think of something you find exciting. How can you work that into your everyday life?

Plan a small adventure or outing for yourself this week. Sometimes small adventures can lead to larger ones.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Miracles

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Miracles.” Look for them and you’ll discover that miracles happen all the time.

This week, be aware of “happy accidents” that occur. How have they helped you in the past?

Be someone else’s miracle. Do something unexpected or simply “show up” when you’re needed.

Look back over the recent past. What would you consider “miraculous” now that you look at it with a fresh perspective?

Expect miracles to happen in your life but don’t impose restrictions as to how they might occur.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Essence (What makes you “you?”)

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Essence.” We each have something unique to offer. This core of your being is essential to your purpose in life.

Spend one day with any facade stripped away. Be the REAL you without any care as to what others expect.

When things are hectic and stressful, what brings you back to center?

This week, do something to learn more about your gifts and talents. Read a book, start a journal or take a class.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Joy

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Joy.” Quite simply, this is why we’re alive; to create and receive as much joy as possible.

How can you bring joy and happiness to someone else?

This week, focus on activities that are fun and that make you feel happy and fulfilled.

Make a list of positives: your best qualities, things going well in your life, and all of your dreams. Realize, with joy, all the greatness you possess.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Breakthrough

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Breakthrough.” We each have the potential for greatness, we just need to break through anything that’s blocking us.

What positive actions can you take this week to move towards a life-long goal?

Having difficulties communicating with someone? Break through the static by really listening to them.

What negative attitudes do you have towards yourself? This week, break through one of these limiting beliefs by acknowledging your talents.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Discipline

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Discipline.” To balance your free, open nature there are times when you need to focus.

How disciplined are you in your life? Where might more focus improve your work, relationships or health?

Be succinct in your speech and complete your tasks efficiently and with purpose.

This week, pay particular attention to details. What did you notice that would normally go ignored?

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Enthusiasm

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Enthusiasm.” Have a great day, have a great week…have a great life!

What brings you joy and excitement? How can you increase that in your life?

Notice something each day that made it extraordinary.

This week, celebrate every small victory and look forward to the next.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

 

How often do you tell yourself what to believe?

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The answer to the title question is “all the time.” In fact, just about every second of your waking (and some would argue sleeping) life. Every thought you have and every word you utter reinforces your beliefs. Unfortunately, people don’t use this power for good often enough.

Let’s rephrase the question: How often do you tell yourself to believe good things about yourself and the world around you? When you have a success, do you think (or even say out loud) “dang, I rock!” or do you think “Not bad, but I really could have done that better.” Do you have any phrases you say regularly to keep focused on a goal or to set your attitude? Some call these affirmations or mantras (or MAN-tras for the gentlemen as coined by fellow coach KishaLynn Elliott.) I’ve modified and adopted one popular saying as my own. I changed “Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.” to “Always know that something wonderful is happening.” I find the subtle difference more solid and assuring that great things are happening now and always as opposed to some time in the future. What we say out loud and what we think about ourself sculpts our beliefs to match.

Take a second and recall some of the thoughts that were running through your mind earlier today. Were they helpful in creating positive beliefs about yourself and your future? How could you change them to support your goals and how you want your life to evolve? Next, come up with your own quote, phrase or word that describes how you want to live your life or where you want it to go. Write it down, post it on your mirror, put it in your wallet or purse and make it your desktop image. Focus on that positive thought for a week and see how things change for you.

You have control of your thoughts so you can program your own beliefs. Make them work for you, not against you, and reach your destinations faster!

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Just Jump!

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Sometimes you have to take a chance and accept some risk for a potential payoff. This isn’t just true in business but in your personal life too.

Let’s say you’re looking for the perfect partner. Staying at home and wishing for the best isn’t going to magically bring that special someone around. You have to sometimes place yourself in uncomfortable situations to move your dating life forward. Maybe you’d like to advance your career but you’re stalling because of the required interview or promotion process. Or you’d like to return to school but you don’t want to be the oldest person in the class. You get the idea and you can probably think of a dozen other examples on your own. How do you get past your natural human instinct to avoid risk or danger? Just jump!

Sometimes we over-think things. That gives our brains too much time to create all of the false perceptions (FEAR-false evidence appearing real) that feed our gremlins and prevent us from making any progress. Outsmart your own brain by acting before it has a chance to think too much. Now, I’m not saying to pursue your entire life with thoughtless and reckless abandon. (Though some people do live their lives that way and it works for them.) Instead, look at the potential outcome of your decision and quickly compare it to the REAL risk. If the payoff outweighs the risk, then go for it.

Here’s a personal example. In addition to being a performance coach, I’m also a Beachbody coach. That gives me the opportunity to coach people wanting to get fit and healthy; a passion of mine. When talking with folks about my own weight loss, they often ask to see before and after photos. Honestly, I’ve been putting off putting these together. I’m not embarrassed by how I look but, instead, had built a false perception that people simply wouldn’t find them “impressive” enough. I had visions of people saying “that’s it?” After talking to some other coaches though, I realized the payoff outweighed the risk. If, by chance, the photos did provide some motivation to a single person to try and get fit then the gremlin self-doubt was worth it. I quit worrying about what others might be thinking about my photos and just began sharing them.

You likely have similar situations you’re dealing with right now. If you’re having a difficult time weighing the risk and benefit, talk with friends or someone you trust. Once you see that the risk is small or non-existent, just jump!

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You’re More Than a Label

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We have a lot of different ways to describe ourselves. We’re really complex as individuals and we have a lot to offer but, unfortunately, we tend to try and wrap ourselves up into neat little packages that can be explained with just a few words or numbers. You might see yourself as a number on a scale, an age, an IQ, or a salary range. Maybe you tag yourself with your gender, nationality or preferences. But you’re more than just numbers and labels.

When I first meet with a client, we often start our coaching relationship with an informal conversation. “Tell me about yourself” usually leads to a laundry list of these labels. Maybe we’ve been so conditioned to have a “30-second elevator speech” ready that we revert to this short-hand method of describing ourselves out of habit. Asking how others see them sometimes renders more details but just marginally. What tends to break the pattern is story telling.

When I ask “Tell me the story of your life and where you want it to go” that usually results in a more rich and detailed view of the individual. It’s difficult to move through a plot and fully describe a desired state with just a few words. This is a great exercise for anyone to go through to more fully understand who they are and where they want to go.

On paper or online, create two pages. Title one “How I Got Here” and the other “Where I Will Go.” Take about an hour and write these two stories using complete sentences and with detail. Put them aside for a day or two then come back and read them.

How does your detailed story change how you think about yourself? How will you talk about yourself to others going forward? It’s likely you now have a more full picture and a few labels simply won’t be able to convey all of the great things you have to say about yourself!

Give this exercise a try and let me know how it went for you.

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