Love (yourself before others)

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Love.” Love for self and others is really the true destination of our lives!

What is your definition of love? How does it show up in your life every day?

How can you more consistently show love for yourself?

This week, be more open to loving others; especially those you may have found less than “lovable” in the past.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Opening

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Opening.” Fearlessly open yourself to all the possibilities of your life.

What doors are opening around you? What’s keeping you from entering?

How open are you to receiving love, compassion and care from others?

What are some things you wish you were more open towards? This week, work on one or two of them.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Truth (You deserve it from yourself)

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Truth.” You know when you’re telling someone the truth but how truthful are you to yourself?

How close is your life to the one you know you were meant to live? How can you start heading in the right direction?

If you’re in an unsupportive relationship consider replacing it with a more positive one.

This week, be aware of times when you’re not being yourself to please someone else. Strive to be more genuine.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Faith and Optimism

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Faith.” Have faith in yourself and your ability to move your life forward.

What steps are you taking now to improve your life? Write them down so, when they become reality, you’ll reaffirm your ability to create powerful change.

How can you better express the faith you have in others?

Faith requires trust and patience. This week, let anxiety fade and have faith that all you’re working towards will be yours.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Acceptance

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Acceptance.” Not everything in life has to be a battle.

If something unpleasant happens this week, accept it as part of your life experience. Learn from it but move on and don’t dwell.

Have you been holding others to unreasonably “high standards?” Try accepting others for who they are.

How accepting are you of yourself? Strive to be your best but love yourself for who you are in the moment.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Joy

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Joy.” Quite simply, this is why we’re alive; to create and receive as much joy as possible.

How can you bring joy and happiness to someone else?

This week, focus on activities that are fun and that make you feel happy and fulfilled.

Make a list of positives: your best qualities, things going well in your life, and all of your dreams. Realize, with joy, all the greatness you possess.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Breakthrough

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Breakthrough.” We each have the potential for greatness, we just need to break through anything that’s blocking us.

What positive actions can you take this week to move towards a life-long goal?

Having difficulties communicating with someone? Break through the static by really listening to them.

What negative attitudes do you have towards yourself? This week, break through one of these limiting beliefs by acknowledging your talents.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Protection

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Protection.” We each need a safe place to retreat and we can also be a haven for others.

Create a special, comfortable place in your home where you can sit and let the cares of the day disappear.

What are some steps you can take to more genuinely reflect your values, protecting your true self?

How can you offer strength to and best serve those you care about?

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

You can make your relationships flourish!

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My chapter of the International Coach Federation, of which I’m currently President, just held their annual educational retreat called FLOURISH! The educational content was focused around how we can truly flourish as coaches. Of course, as coaches, our ability to be our best reflects right back to our clients. How can we best serve them and help them achieve true greatness and, well, flourish?

Of all of the sessions, the one that stuck with me the most was about how the trusting relationship built between coach and client creates this “sweet spot” in which roadblocks fade away and clients can see the road before them more clearly. (I’m a metaphoric coach…it seems to work its way into everything.) We know from experience though that building trust takes time but there are a few things that can be done to help it along:

Know and accept who you are. It’s difficult trusting others when you don’t know and trust yourself. If you’re constantly questioning your place in the relationship and trying to make space for yourself then there won’t be room for anyone else.

Accept the other person for who they are. If you’re always trying to reimage someone else, you’re basically saying to yourself that they’re somehow not good enough. You won’t trust them and they’ll also sense the nonacceptance which will prevent them from accepting themselves.

Be honest and truthful. This should be a “no brainer” but if someone learns you’re not being truthful, that trust is destroyed. Prevent that from ever happening by always being truthful. Even an uncomfortable truth will always turn out better for you than holding something back.

Know that everyone has incredible value and purpose. You are worthy of the trust of others and that holds for them too.

Keeping these in mind in any interaction, whether with a family member, colleague, coach or client, will help you develop that trusting relationship and allow you and that connection to flourish.

Photo credit: Napafloma-Photographe / Foter / CC BY

Have Courage and Don’t Wait Until it’s Too Late

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I attended a memorial service over the weekend. It was very informal being a casual gathering of friends and family. It had an “open mic” format where, through the course of the evening, anyone could step up to the microphone and offer a few words about the departed. A few family members gave their stories early on and then things waned as an awkward silence set in. Eventually, everyone went back to chatting quietly at their individual tables.

After about 30 minutes, a very tiny, timid and teary-eyed woman approached the microphone. In a quiet, but still very audible voice, she started by saying that she was ashamed to be at the service. She went on to explain that she was the departed’s half-sister. (A few gasps went out indicating this wasn’t a widely known relative.) She had never been a large part of this person’s life but, now that she had heard some of the stories, she was begging to hear more. She encouraged others to come up and say just a few words about her sister so that she could learn more about what she had missed from not being more involved in this person’s life.

I thought two things; what guts that took and how this was a classic “you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone” moment.

We all lost someone over the past week—Maya Angelou. Her insight into courage opened the eyes of many to their full potential.

One isn’t necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.

I’m sure this woman shows courage in other aspects of her life too but I wonder what kept her from connecting with her sister more deeply when it was something she obviously wanted. I think her initial statement gives a clue. Our fear of rejection and shame often holds us back from pursuing things we want. It isn’t until the need or desire for what we want exceeds the fear that we can pursue our dreams.

If there’s something you’re striving for, whether it’s a personal change or a mended relationship, envision the pleasure of having met your goal and consider the risk of delaying in your pursuit. Put the negative self-talk and the idea of shame aside and have courage. You can succeed but you’ll never know for sure until you try. Don’t wait until it’s too late!

Photo credit: Madame Eleonora / Foter / CC BY-NC-SA 2.0