Action (Planning is Only the Start)

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Action.” Planning or preparation is important but only by taking action will you move your life forward.

What actions have you been putting off because of fear? Move past the fear.

What actions would you be taking if there was absolutely no way you could fail?

For this week, make a list of actions you want to complete and finish the list; no excuses!

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Opening

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Opening.” Fearlessly open yourself to all the possibilities of your life.

What doors are opening around you? What’s keeping you from entering?

How open are you to receiving love, compassion and care from others?

What are some things you wish you were more open towards? This week, work on one or two of them.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Truth (You deserve it from yourself)

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Truth.” You know when you’re telling someone the truth but how truthful are you to yourself?

How close is your life to the one you know you were meant to live? How can you start heading in the right direction?

If you’re in an unsupportive relationship consider replacing it with a more positive one.

This week, be aware of times when you’re not being yourself to please someone else. Strive to be more genuine.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Emergence (as Leader, as Authentic Self)

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Emergence.” Live the life that was meant for you as you emerge as your genuine self.

How close are you to being your true or ideal self? What steps will allow that self to come into being?

What gifts have you been hiding from the world? Start using these talents more openly.

This week, become aware of new beginnings around you and jot down your observations.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Adventure

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Adventure.” Take a risk and add spice to your life.

How have you been limiting yourself? Take a step towards action even if it feels risky.

Think of something you find exciting. How can you work that into your everyday life?

Plan a small adventure or outing for yourself this week. Sometimes small adventures can lead to larger ones.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Breakthrough

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Breakthrough.” We each have the potential for greatness, we just need to break through anything that’s blocking us.

What positive actions can you take this week to move towards a life-long goal?

Having difficulties communicating with someone? Break through the static by really listening to them.

What negative attitudes do you have towards yourself? This week, break through one of these limiting beliefs by acknowledging your talents.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Discipline

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Discipline.” To balance your free, open nature there are times when you need to focus.

How disciplined are you in your life? Where might more focus improve your work, relationships or health?

Be succinct in your speech and complete your tasks efficiently and with purpose.

This week, pay particular attention to details. What did you notice that would normally go ignored?

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Enthusiasm

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Enthusiasm.” Have a great day, have a great week…have a great life!

What brings you joy and excitement? How can you increase that in your life?

Notice something each day that made it extraordinary.

This week, celebrate every small victory and look forward to the next.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

 

Are you Giving Up or Getting Smarter?

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We often come to points in our lives when we have to decide whether or not to let go of something. A lot of my coaching clients are worried that they might be giving up without trying hard enough to achieve what they want and they want someone to hold them accountable. What is just as common is helping someone come to a decision as to whether it’s in their best interest to leave something behind and pursue other ventures. Ending a pursuit doesn’t always mean you’re giving up. Sometimes ending something is the right choice and moving on means you’re getting smarter.

So, how do you know the difference?

Use Your Head
Gather as much information as possible. If it’s a financial decision, have all of the relevant numbers in front of you. If you’re thinking of changing careers, look at job listings and labor department statistics. Making an important decision without any factual basis is a gamble at best.

Use Your Heart
Once you’ve looked at the facts, you still need to consider what’s best for you in the long run and how it fits in with your beliefs and values. If the “numbers” point in a direction that makes you feel uneasy or even sick, listen to your inner wisdom.

Use Your Instincts
Sometimes referred to as your sixth sense, you might have a “feeling” about something. It might go against logic and might even make you feel a little uneasy but you’re still drawn in a certain direction. Don’t discount this feeling. Give serious consideration to the option to which your instincts are pointing.

Talk to Others
Bounce your ideas off someone you trust- a family member, colleague or coach. Just make sure that the person being consulted isn’t going to be directly impacted by your decision because they may not be an impartial sounding board.

Finally, just jump.
I’ve talked before about how you can trap yourself into a state of preparation and never move into action. You have to eventually make a decision. Trust your wisdom and know that there are few, if any, decisions that you’ll make in your life that can’t be turned to your advantage.

It’s a new year and you have the chance to make this the best year of your life. What are you waiting for, make your decision!

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Darned if You Do, Darned if You Don’t

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It’s easy to get stuck in your life. You have a decision to make and something looming over you prevents you from making a choice. What if you’ve gotten yourself bound up in a position where you can’t make a good decision based on your current perceptions?

I just went through an exercise with a group where everyone had to list their excuses (limiting beliefs) for not moving their businesses forward. A pair of statements on one list jumped out at me:

I’m afraid of what success will bring.
What if I fail?

They didn’t leave themselves much room here. You’re either going to succeed or fail in business. For this individual, it was readily apparent how their perceptions had them frozen.

A typical coaching response to “What if I fail?” might be something like “What if you succeed?” but that has already been precluded by the prior statement. This is one of those knots (I call it a “double-bind” though I know it doesn’t meet the formal definition) that needs to be picked apart carefully. One key is the use of the word “afraid.” The False Evidence Appearing Real is a great place to start the conversation. Looking into what success looks like for the individual will help identify what’s blocking the way for them there. Once a harmonious vision of success is achieved, opening that door will be easier. They can then leave the idea of failure behind.

What types of situations frequently get you bound up? How have you eventually untied the knot?

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