Acceptance

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Acceptance.” Not everything in life has to be a battle.

If something unpleasant happens this week, accept it as part of your life experience. Learn from it but move on and don’t dwell.

Have you been holding others to unreasonably “high standards?” Try accepting others for who they are.

How accepting are you of yourself? Strive to be your best but love yourself for who you are in the moment.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Essence (What makes you “you?”)

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Essence.” We each have something unique to offer. This core of your being is essential to your purpose in life.

Spend one day with any facade stripped away. Be the REAL you without any care as to what others expect.

When things are hectic and stressful, what brings you back to center?

This week, do something to learn more about your gifts and talents. Read a book, start a journal or take a class.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Breakthrough

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Breakthrough.” We each have the potential for greatness, we just need to break through anything that’s blocking us.

What positive actions can you take this week to move towards a life-long goal?

Having difficulties communicating with someone? Break through the static by really listening to them.

What negative attitudes do you have towards yourself? This week, break through one of these limiting beliefs by acknowledging your talents.

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Protection

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Protection.” We each need a safe place to retreat and we can also be a haven for others.

Create a special, comfortable place in your home where you can sit and let the cares of the day disappear.

What are some steps you can take to more genuinely reflect your values, protecting your true self?

How can you offer strength to and best serve those you care about?

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

Discipline

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Road Trip! The destination for this week is “Discipline.” To balance your free, open nature there are times when you need to focus.

How disciplined are you in your life? Where might more focus improve your work, relationships or health?

Be succinct in your speech and complete your tasks efficiently and with purpose.

This week, pay particular attention to details. What did you notice that would normally go ignored?

Let us know in the comments where you’ve gone and what you’ve discovered about yourself.

How to Better Understand Yourself

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I’ve written a lot about the importance of being genuine; of being yourself. But how well do you really know who you are?

He who knows others is learned; He who knows himself is wise.
-Lao-tzu, Tao te Ching

When you ask people to “tell me a little about yourself” you’ll often get the biographical data dump but little insight into who they really are as a person. Some people may not verbalize this well but others simply have never stopped to look inward. They really don’t know their strengths, beliefs or values. They don’t know what makes them unique.

Coaching lends itself to bringing out the best in people. I love using assessments to help people learn more about themselves and it also gives them starting points for our coaching conversations. One of the most popular assessments is the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI.) The MBTI gives you an indication of how you see the world and interact with others. After taking the test, you’re left with a type based on four dichotomies. For example, my type is ENFJ. Without going into a lot of detail, each type has some consistent personality traits and you can use this information to really build on your strengths.

The MBTI takes quite a bit of training to evaluate but the general information it provides is still useful. There are dozens of other assessments but my current favorite is VIA or values in action. While most other assessments tell about how you do things or interact with others, the VIA helps you discover your values or character strengths. These are the essence of your being. My VIA strengths are fairness, humor, kindness, leadership and honesty. You can take the assessment for free and the results are easy to comprehend. You can build on them through exercises of your own design or by working with a professional.

In addition to assessments, the idea of personal development is important. Once you know your greatest talents or deeply held values, learn more about making these traits even stronger. Notice I’m focusing on your strengths. Some look at their “low points” and try to figure out a way to make them better but why not start with where you’re already strong and become stellar? Read, watch videos, listen to podcasts or take classes. Do whatever you enjoy that will allow you to better understand yourself and become the greatest version of you the world will ever see!